Do you see problems as negative situations? Do you find it hard to see through the panic when something major has gone wrong? Well, you’re certainly not the only one. This tip could very well be your answer to a panic-free zone.
I had not had a coach that time to help me with the situation. I was reading a lot of books about self-development and stated to apply what I had read so far.
Setting quietly I looked at the situation exactly as it was at that moment. Then I asked myself to imagine that this was the best news I had had all week, what would be my reaction to this situation if that were the case. To my surprise, after minutes of thinking, I had a certain amount of relief. If the truth be told, I had been getting more and more unhappy and anxious about going into work. I also had found it very hard to pluck up the courage to leave and make a career change. If anything positive had come out of this situation, it would be the fact that I could now take the time to consider a new direction. It could be my chance to do something totally different with my life.
What was the lesson from this?
I saw this situation as an opportunity to alter the way i lived my life. My intuition had been screaming at me that i needed to leave but fear of not finding another job had stopped my conscious mind from taking any notice of my intuition. I had buried it for a long time and now my redundancy had finally given me freedom.
Consequently, what had seemed like devastating news at first, became a new and positive challenge.
When a situation occurs, we immediately view that situation in either a negative or positive way. We also condition our subconscious into thinking that certain situations will produce certain outcomes, be they negative or positive. We do this, based on our past experiences and fears.
When we make a statement containing the words ‘don’t’, ‘not’, we are actually giving attention and energy to what we don’t want. Simply asking yourself: “So, What Do I Want?” you change a negative statement to positive.
As Napoleon Hill said:
“Positive and negative emotions cannot occupy the mind at the same time. One or the other must dominate. It is your responsibility to make sure that positive emotions constitute the dominating influence of your mind”.
When we call something a “problem”, we are not able to find solutions easily. We paint the situation in a negative light and it takes a lot more effort for us to see the good in it.
I have eliminated the word ‘problem’ from my vocabulary. I now choose to call problems ‘situations’ or ‘challenges’. It takes the panic away!